What Makes a High Value Person

It’s June. The sun is out, the grass is greener, and society still has no clue what a high value person actually is.

Let’s just get this out of the way: A high value person is not someone with a six-figure job, 8-pack abs, a Hermès bag, or a car that sounds like your trauma trying to escape your body.

We’ve been sold a dream — more accurately, a delusion — that status symbols equal self-worth. Spoiler alert: they don’t.

"Too many people spend money they haven't earned, to buy things they don't want, to impress people they don't like."— Will Rogers 

Meanwhile, the person with a loud laugh, who hugs too long and cries at podcasts? "Low value. "But the one who ghosts their therapist, only texts after 11pm, and drives a leased car that costs more than their rent? Apparently, that’s aspirational.

Let’s talk real value. Jesus didn’t roll up in a Gucci robe. The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) wasn’t delivering TED Talks in Yeezys. They had something way rarer: substance.

“The best of you are those who are best to others.”— Prophet Muhammad (PBUH)

“Love your neighbor as yourself.”— Jesus (Mark 12:31)

That’s it. That’s the post. They were kind. Grounded. Connected. No blue check. No brand deals.

But here we are — turning human connection into a performance review. We’ve reached a point where people will miss out on real, nourishing relationships just to maintain an aesthetic. I mean… we’re letting algorithms define our worth while our inner child hasn’t been hugged since 2004.

“It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society.”— Jiddu Krishnamurti

Let’s stop confusing attention for affection.

Let’s stop thinking “emotional availability” is a red flag.

Let’s stop calling someone’s joy or softness “too much.”

Being high value isn’t about being above others — it’s about being rooted in yourself.

Here’s what actually matters:

– Being consistent, even when no one's watching.

– Laughing at yourself without apology.

– Treating the barista, the CEO, and your inner critic with kindness.

– Choosing depth over performance.

– Knowing your energy is a gift, not a transaction.

You can’t buy that. You become that — and then give it away freely.

“Try not to become a person of success. Rather become a person of value.”— Albert Einstein

So…Are we done chasing status and calling it self-worth? Or are we still willing to miss out on real life for a brand name that won’t hold us at 2am?

Let’s talk about it.👇What does being a “high value person” really mean to you — minus the filters and the flex?

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