Looking at life from another person's perspective helps us understand things in a different light and clears the path for a great deal of understanding and open-mindedness. Usually, when we are frustrated by someone else’s actions, it is because their actions do not mirror our own values. Our frustration and anger comes from our inability to understand why they would do such a thing or act in a certain way. We have our own realities, which are created by our individual perspectives.
A person who grew up in a well-off community and a stable home may have difficulty understanding what a teenager is doing by roaming the streets as part of a gang at the age of fifteen. But perhaps seeing that this teenager comes from an abusive family may help one to realize that he isn’t rebellious, but rather, is lost, and finds the meaning of family in the only group that supports him and protects him.
People are difficult to understand because YOU are lacking some missing piece that will relate you to them.
Empathy is the lovefire of sweet remembrance and shared understanding. - John Eaton
I’ll be the first to admit, that I have judged people either based on stereotypes or what have you, but most of my life I have had the ability to see the world from a different perspective and the truth is; a change in perspective can turn your worldview upside down; in a good way.
I'm not sure why I choose to see things from their perspective but trying to understand where someone is coming from, makes me feel better. Trying to understand why someone does or says something differently or maybe even hurtfully is a chance to open up and learn. It has allowed me to be more compassionate and soft-hearted; qualities I thrive to have.
We should remember that even when we are looking at the same thing, two people might not see it the same way. It's our experiences and our ability to comprehend that conducts what we are looking at.
Nowadays there are a thousand and one "studies" to support opinions and I've seen people go out of their way to prove someone wrong by presenting their found facts. My question is always WHY? Why do they choose to prove someone wrong, what are they gaining and does it really make them feel better. If so, why does this make them feel better?
I'm not saying that we all have to agree on everything, I'm just curious why being empathetic and considerate is so hard instead.
It is important to realize the fact that not all people share our personal views and beliefs of the world. We must remain open-minded and respectful to what others believe when connecting with them.
My hope is that the next time you feel frustrated because you are disagreeing with someone, try to change your perspective, become more understanding, and be optimistic, with the realization that we are a reflection of ourselves in others.
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