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  • Writer's pictureSarah M.

The Greatest Skill I Will Ever Master: Remaining Calm in the Storm of Life

Life can be overwhelming. The constant stream of stimuli and thoughts, both inside and out, can easily make us feel lost.

The other day, I had a great conversation with my brother about staying calm amid life's chaos. We talked about how, by practicing calmness in the whirl of it all, we can become stronger. It doesn't mean there won't be turbulence, but it does mean we can maintain a calm demeanor when things get tough. With consistent effort and self-development, we can all handle overwhelming situations in a calm and collected way.

Emotions will still arise—that's part of being human. Finding your calm within will look different for everyone, and there's no one-size-fits-all solution. The key is practicing what works for you. One of my favorite spiritual teachers, Michael A. Singer, advises starting with the low-hanging fruit. The simple, mundane things that frustrate you—like traffic, waiting in line, or someone being late—are easy targets to start practicing calmness. Relax and release.

Learning to remain calm is like building a muscle; it requires daily effort and patience. There will be days when it feels like you're making no progress, but every small step counts. It's crucial to celebrate these small victories. The first time you don't lose your temper in a traffic jam or remain patient while waiting in line, acknowledge your progress. These moments are the building blocks of a calmer, more resilient self.

Remember to be gentle with yourself and have compassion. This is a learning path of the human experience. Our minds want to protect us by solving all the world's problems, whether real or imagined. We often get caught up in the idea that we need to have everything under control, but true calmness comes from accepting that we can't control everything. It's about finding peace in the midst of uncertainty and chaos.

As Eckhart Tolle says, "Be the silent watcher of your thoughts and behavior. You are beneath the thinker. You are the stillness beneath the mental noise. You are the love and joy beneath the pain."

It's important to remember that our worries are just a stream of jumbled thoughts and stories we tell ourselves about a situation. With the awareness that comes from consistent practice, we empower ourselves to choose to let go or to handle these thoughts and storms as we see fit. This opens us up to improved physical and emotional well-being.

Life will always have its storms, but by cultivating inner calm, we can navigate them with grace and strength. It’s a journey worth taking, one that leads to a deeper understanding of ourselves and the world around us. So, start with the small things, practice daily, and be kind to yourself along the way. You’ll find that remaining calm in the storm is not just a skill, but a profound way of living.




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