The Best Thing that Ever Happened to Me
Not getting what you once thought you wanted can be the best thing that ever happens to you.
“Remember that sometimes not getting what you want is a wonderful stroke of luck.” - Dalai Lama
I couldn't agree more, because truth be told this has happened to me several times in my 40+ years. Be it relationships, school, career or pretty much anything else; not getting what I thought I wanted has always led me to something even better.
I guess that's why serendipity is one of my favorite words.
The way I see it is that there's no one way to get "there", no one way to live your best life, yet what's meant to be will be. Let me put it this way;
We all have multiple possible futures - each of which could be equally incredible.
So yes, sometimes not getting what you want is a wonderful stroke of luck.
And dare I say, when you don’t get what you want, it's because there is something better on its way to and for you.
Some of your most defining moments will occur when things don’t go according to plan.
If I were to ask you how you ended up here in this moment, and depending on how old you are, you might have to go back decades to describe all the 'coincidences' on what had to happen in order for this reality to have happen.
I wouldn't even know where to start...my first memory? That would be either cutting my lip or receiving my Lucky-dog from my Grandpa on Valentines Day.
Or I could tell you about when I was up-rooted and moved to another country and because of that ended up being "kicked out" of school due to the fact that my second language wasn't strong enough, so I ended up going to another college, where I met a friend and through her I met a guy and well you know these stories could go on forever.
So, if things had gone according to plan, you might not be reading this.
Things you believe in will change with age.
The more we level up, the more knowledge and experiences we'll gain, this means that through each life event our view and opinions will change - (hopefully) for the better. When you're younger you might feel like you know what you want and it feels like the picture is clear, and for some it is, but most of us grow out of a lot of things we imagined to be what we wanted.
Uncertainty = Infinite Possibility.
You can’t possibly know how it’s all going to turn out. But in that which is uncertain, becomes infinite.
If you've read 'A New Earth' or are familiar with Eckhart Tolle, you know his words - When you become comfortable with uncertainty, infinite possibilities open up in your life. It means fear is no longer a dominant factor in what you do and no longer prevents you from taking action to initiate change.
You’ll fall in love, get married, build a house in the suburbs and send your kids to amazing schools.
You’ll climb the ladder of success right into a corner office with an amazing view and you’ll love every second of it.
You’ll build a startup that changes the world or one small part of it.
You’ll climb the biggest mountains and surf the biggest waves.
Or maybe nothing will go according to plan and it will be the best thing that’s ever happened to you, because you’ll be left with the opportunity to get excited about all the endless possibilities that are waiting for YOU.
It’s never too late to be what you might have been.
Our visions, like life, have a way of changing, never staying the same. You evolve, you adapt. And if you are truly lucky, you won't end up with what you thought you wanted, but something even better.
Because the one thing you wanted to happen is often the best thing that never did.