The Anger Inside
I've never really been one to keep or clench to anger but I understand that it doesn't come as effortlessly to everyone. Anger can be familiar and easy to hang on to, it can become a part of who you are; insidiously.
Responding to life with anger is one of the most destructive and difficult habits to break. Unfortunately anger can ruin relationships, railroad success, and generally make you feel rotten about yourself.
And though it might feel good to "let loose", episodes of anger produces unhealthy chronic stress that damages the body, causes cancer and alienates those you care about.
When we find ourselves emotionally triggered, we may feel like we are losing control, that our emotions have taken on lives of their own.
I realize it can be tempting to hold on to anger. Sometimes you might feel like you deserve to feel angry, that your anger is a justifiable.
Anger is a powerful, and sometimes - a healthy emotion. But anger is only healthy when it’s fully felt - and then released. Intentionally or unintentionally holding on to it creates even more emptiness, it blocks the possibility of true joy and new opportunities coming into your life. Letting go of your anger will restore your vitality, trust and your personal power.
It doesn’t mean you condone hurtful actions or agree with bad behavior; it doesn’t even necessarily mean that you’re inviting the person who hurt you back into your life.
Forgiveness means that you are willing to cancel the debt you feel someone owes you, to surrender the hurt that you feel, and make peace with letting that go. Imma write that shit again so it really sinks in.
Forgiveness means that you are willing to cancel the debt you feel someone owes you, to surrender the hurt that you feel, and make peace with letting that go. It means you are taking back your personal power and moving on.
When you can be clear about your feelings and intentions, and communicate them clearly, you have a far better chance of getting what you want, than if you lose control or allow your subconscious mind to manipulate the situation.
You might take your frustrations out on the people closest to you because you feel safe and comfortable with them, but misplaced anger can cause way more harm than good.
When you’ve been wronged, betrayed or hurt, it can take months, years, even decades before you feel ready to forgive and move on but the problem is that being unforgiving harms you far more than it harms the person who hurt you.
Holding on to anger, resentment, and a sense of betrayal pierces through every part of your life.
Many think that we have to wait until our hurt and angry feelings are resolved before we can forgive someone. But that’s just not the case: Deciding to forgive is exactly that, a decision. And it’s one that you can make at any time in service of your own healing and growth.
I'm not saying anger is not acceptable, I am merely reminding you that you don't have to be angry.