I love my comfort zone, that space where things feel familiar and at ease, where I feel like I am in control of my environment and surroundings; in reality, change happens constantly. You can fight it or welcome it. It’s your choice. But it'll occur regardless.
There is nothing more constant than change.
Change is one of those things I've needed to learn to embrace; actually, I'm still learning. Change is going to happen anyway, resisting it won’t do any good. It’s better to figure out an approach to deal with change that will work for you.
These are things I have incorporated into my life and the keys to learning to embrace change with an open mind.
First and foremost; adopt a mindset that views change as positive and beneficial instead of something to be avoided at all costs. By reminding yourself that change is good, even when terrible things happen, you’ll be able to find the nugget of good hidden within to move forward in life.
Another thing I've done is looked back on my life. Reflecting on who I was 5, 10 or 25 years ago I wouldn't have what I have today without significant change in my life. Most of those serendipity moments have resulted from major uncomfortable changes. If it happened before, allow it to happen again.
Let me remind you that trying something new and slightly scary can help you explore what it is that you really like. Maybe the experience can be thrilling and terrifying but can also show you that you want to lead a more (i.e.) creative life.
Seek adventure even in the ordinary. Do small things outside your daily routine. This not only adds change gradually into your life, it also makes life more interesting, alive and enjoyable. Start by wearing something you normally might not wear. Or maybe it's a different route home, where you buy your groceries at a random store you've never been to. Join a group with interests like your own – or try out a group devoted to something you’ve never done, but would like to.
Check your ego. Typically, the biggest roadblock to change is you. Often, there’s little downside other than facing your own bruised ego when you evaluate change. To counteract this, ask yourself about the downside of pursuing change if it doesn’t work out. If the downside is primarily concern about failure or people pointing and laughing at you, it’s time to get over it.
Failing isn't bad. For some reason, most of us were never taught to fail. Our entire school system is set up so that success is given a gold star and failure is ridiculed. - PTOOEY!!!
You need to learn from your failures so that you don’t repeat them down the road. If anything, failure is our greatest teacher.
Now, though I am encouraging you to embrace change, I need to say something extremely important. If something does not feel right in your soul, don't do it. Even if everyone else is or you feel like you'll miss out if you don't. You need to make decisions that are right for you, not because someone else thinks that you need to do this.
That being said, next time you are faced with an experience which causes your reality to change, take a deep breath, take a step back and embrace the opportunity.