I've been misunderstood by many people in my life and therefore have probably made some of them feel very uncomfortable, hurt and even mad. I understand that because we are not responsible of others actions, I too need to realize that maybe sometimes I wasn't wrong and even though someone might have gotten mad at me that wasn't my burden to carry.
I also want to acknowledge that I know there are people who deliberately shame others, and I am not ok with that.
I truly want to apologize if i have ever made anyone feel less than or if my words hurt you in anyway, I assure you my intentions (for the most of the part) have always been pure and good.
A single moment of misunderstanding is so poisonous, that it makes us forget the hundred lovable moments spent together within a minute.
Being misunderstood can really be a two-edged sword. The need to be understood is one of the deepest needs we have. It’s not just a matter of being able to be heard and seen – it’s trying to do it in a way that doesn’t leave you feeling forgotten or overlooked. And because of this, the way we act might sometimes come across as mean, judgmental or angry, which can end up hurting others. Tricky situation, I know.
I see it two ways; one is where we are too sensitive about anything and everything, sometimes we need to realize that "they" aren't out to get us with their seemingly mean comments; and two, we need to be aware of how we say and do things.
So as much as you need to take a moment to check in with yourself, and try to see your actions, gestures, and expressions from an outside perspective, you also need to be mindful about how you react to others.
Do you easily get offended? Maybe it's something someone said or maybe it's you overreacting. We all need to notice our own behavior, actions and reactions. "Did they say that to be mean or did they say it because they want to be honest and helpful and I just refuse to see their side of it?"
And of course there are situations where you can waste all the time in the world trying to understand why someone misconstrued what you said. But in all likelihood, what you expressed triggered a defensive response in them and that has nothing to do with you.
Lets not be so quick to judge and allow ourselves to be calm before we make a big deal out of (sometimes) nothing.
However, I do want to be sincere with my apology, that if my actions, words and being has made anyone ever feel anything negative, I am sorry. I will do better.
So live in love, friend, especially when you’re misunderstood. And no matter what happens know your greatness and be encouraged.
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