Grown Up Sh*t
To find out what you want, you might need to know who you are.
Sometimes it's difficult to put into words, what you need and want. Most of us often know more about what we don't want than what we do. I think I've met 1200 people in my lifetime who have said that if they knew what they wanted they would pursue it, me included.
But it's not really that you don't know what you want to do "when you grow up", it's the limited belief that it is impossible.
When we ask kids about their dreams of what they want to be when they grow up, the answers can vary from an astronaut to a dog. The reason is that children have much fewer concerns regarding risk, embarrassment, practicality, job security, and they are not yet bothered by the stresses of others opinions.
We as adults are surrounded by "noise", the outside environment blurring our perception and focus, not actually stopping and thinking about the things that really make us happy.
The truth is by knowing yourself, having a sense of who you are will help you find what you are looking for and you won't have to justify or explain yourself to others because that adds no value. And although I can't tell you who you are, I can help with some key steps towards finding what you want.
Now, I'm not saying you should quit your job and become a farm animal, I'm reminding you that there is a place for you where you can feel fulfilled, connected, vibrant and truly happy.
And even though your purpose might not just show up in your driveway to casually pick you up in a fancy car, there are ways you can actively pursue and bring you closer to your calling.
Notice what feels good.
Our subconscious has ways of letting us know if we're heading in the right direction. Pay attention to the things that happen in your life, the people you meet, the things you notice and the places you are drawn to. Things that feel good are most likely the things we should be doing more of. So really start to notice what captivates you.
Shut down the distractions.
Block out all the naysayers and stop wasting your time with people who don't support your dreams. You don't need that kinda negative energy around you, terrorizing your vision and killin' those good vibes. Prioritize your time and know your worth. (send me a message if you need a reminder)
Pay attention even to the smallest hunches.
Typically ideas of what could be, come in small, sometimes silly and disguised packages without a big ass sign (you might need to make the god damn sign yourself if you want one) But follow those sudden gut hunches and have faith in what could happen.
Ask others what they think.
We are sometimes blind to what we are not willing to see. It goes without saying that others shouldn't dictate what you do, but the people you love, like and admire might see things you haven't paid attention to.
Shake up your routine.
In order to find something new, you're gonna have to go places you've never been. As a true to the core introvert this has been somewhat of a challenge for me. I'm not great in groups and believe it or not, I can be socially awkward but saying yes to opportunities that normally feel uncomfortable can lead you to a whole new advantageous combination of lovely circumstances.
Even if you studied something for years, it doesn't mean that that's the end game. There’s no one right answer, one way or path; your direction will most likely change along the way and remember there are thousands of viable options.
"Build your own dreams, or someone else will hire you to build theirs.” ― Farrah Gray