Failure is inevitable and I'm here to remind you that that's a good thing.
We grow up in an environment where failure is often associated with weakness and that it is due to something that was done wrong. The fact is, failure isn't the opposite of success but a necessary step towards it.
Where we tend to get stuck is we have this picture that when we fail (because we will), it means that we are not good enough, not smart enough, not capable of whatever it is we are aiming for. We need to allow failure to happen and overcome our own self doubt when it does. It's perfectly ok to believe in yourself while failing, because failure isn't the end, it's really the perfect building block for your next step.
Think of some of the greatest entrepreneurs and athletes in the world. Instead of quitting or lowering their expectations, they held themselves to a higher standard in the midst of failing and achieved things some might have said were imaginable.
“I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.” — Michael Jordan aka "Jumpman"
You can be successful not despite of your failures but because of them. If you are failing that means that you are still on the path to success, you haven't given up, you are just failing forward.
Know that failure can be your greatest teacher if you allow it, because education leads to learning and growth. They say that winning without loosing can feel a little hollow, you might end up feeling empty regardless of the win. And success through struggles are always the best stories even when giving up looked like the best and wisest thing at the time. It's that kind of success we can really feel proud of.
I don't think I've ever met a person that hasn't failed on some level in their life; we've all failed, me more times than I'm willing to admit, some that were completely life altering failures. Oh, but the life lessons I have received; gifts my failures have given me, they have truly shaped me. And though failures can be embarrassing, there is something about a struggle we should embrace even during it. Here lies the situations where we are able to welcome understanding, compassion, empathy and kindness; this is a great achievement in it's self.
Failure is a kind of stepping stone, giving us experience, which will help transform ourselves, build resilience and provide a powerful asset to have a deeper understanding for life. I believe life is designed for us to grow and improve, and failing can add appreciation and a sense of value, something we could not get from anywhere else.
When you start to understand failure, you begin to embrace it and see the importance of it; it's part of your greater story.
So to learn, grown and truly thrive; fail again.