Am I a Fake B*tch?
Throughout life and its many hurdles, I have always tried to be authentic and have obviously failed, several times. But I always make the effort to get back on track. I trust that there is good and meaning in the world and I make the most of it. I do my very best to make choices consistent with my values instead of adopting a “what’s in it for me” attitude. And I do keep myself in check.
I feel like if you go into a job interview emphasizing something you are not and get the job, did they really hire you. Or maybe you have to be this certain type of you (that you yourself don't really enjoy being) around people just to be liked.
Scrap that version. Let them hire you for you, be around those who love your true colors and start living as the most authentic you.
I've played many roles in my life as I'm sure we all have, but never was my intention devious.
I have downplayed achievements; to make myself seem smaller than I was and vice versa; allowed things to happen in a relationship because I didn’t want to hurt someone’s feelings; said I was busier than I actually was because I didn’t want to appear lazy; and agreed on something even though it made me feel sick inside.
Bending yourself into a shape because of someone else’s expectations is impossible, exhausting, unnecessary and ugly. The truth is, even if you were to bend all the way for them, they still wouldn't be satisfied.
You are not responsible for how other people feel.
Read that again. You are not responsible for how other people feel.
Once you can accept this fundamental truth, life gets a whole lot easier to manage and you can start showing up as you want to, not just how you think you should.
The only person qualified to live your life is you. And yes, there will be people who will never understand your choices, they may never “get you”, they might even label you as outlandish and unconventional. But that shouldn’t deter you from writing your story the way you want to.
Enough with the limitations, with making others feel more comfortable, enough with hiding your light, and with bending yourself into spaces you’re not designed to fit in to, and enough with pretending you’re anything but you.
Being yourself is not necessarily about standing out or being different. Being authentic is following your path, not comparing it to others.
Staying in touch with your values, dreams, and aspirations requires constant practice. The more you stay true to yourself, the more you are likely to make decisions that will bring you closer to your goals and increase your overall satisfaction in life.
I can be complicated and emotional, I am sometimes a mess and to some a bit loud but I thrive to be me; wear what I want and do what I want. I stand up for what is right even if it means standing alone. When I am true to myself and bare all responsibilities of what others think I should be, I am nothing short of authentic.
As you walk your path with passion and purpose, let me cheer you on. Let me know what the authentic you looks like, and please leave a comment and lets connect on Instagram.